Kink On Tap
Episode 9
Wiki "Honesty in Porn, Sex in Asia, and Cats in Germany"

Host(s): Maymay, Emma

Guest(s): Adisson Lee, Tom Allen

Recorded: September 27, 2009

Published: September 29, 2009

Duration: 1:12:28

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What’s strange is the way people write, commercially, about their pictures. Every nude is a “scorching hot teen beauty!” or a “filthy cum-covered nasty slut”. Every penetration is a deep dicking, every orgasm a screaming fountain of some hyperbolized fluid or other. It’s rare to find anybody who writes honestly and descriptively about erotic imagery.

In conversation with a local friend about she and her friends’ sexuality, I found it fascinating comparing their own experiences with those of friends back home in the States. As a high school student in Shanghai, she lost her virginity at 17 while living in her own apartment (her parents lived in another city). Like many young people, she had received no formal sex ed from either school or family. However, when her mother later found out, instead of responding with anger or threats, she gave my friend “the talk:” how to have safe sex, to always keep a condom in her purse, and so on. She tells me that her mom’s response is rare amongst her friends, but still, I was surprisingly impressed by such pragmatic, empowering parenting.

Please don’t try to convince me that people who lived bisexual lives in the past would have been gay if they had lived today. You don’t know that, I don’t know that, and your insistence that it is true says that you believe that people were bisexual only out of necessity, not by desire. I believe there have always been bisexual people just as you may believe there have always been gay and lesbian people.

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  • "Flickr has a lot of gender identity tension involved in it. Sometimes the photos won't be labeled in a positive way, they'll be labeled in a negative fashion, which is kind of distressing."

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